The Art of Acceptance

Come to terms with God and be at peace;  in this way good will come to you. – Job 22:21

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Sometimes, we must accept life on its terms, not our own. Life has a way of unfolding, not as we will, but as it will. And sometimes, there is precious little we can do to change things.

When events transpire that are beyond our control, we have a choice: we can either learn the art of acceptance, or we can make ourselves miserable as we struggle to change the unchangeable.

We must entrust the things we cannot change to God. Once we have done so, we can prayerfully and faithfully tackle the important work that He has placed before us: doing something about the things we can change . . . and doing it sooner rather than later.

Can you summon the courage and the wisdom to accept life on its own terms? If so, you’ll most certainly be rewarded for your good judgment.

– Steve Arterburn

Surrender to the Lord is not a tremendous sacrifice, not an agonizing performance. It is the most sensible thing you can do. – Corrie Ten Boom

He does not need to transplant us into a different field. He transforms the very things that were before our greatest hindrances, into the chief and most blessed means of our growth. No difficulties in your case can baffle Him. Put yourself absolutely into His hands, and let Him have His own way with you. – Elisabeth Elliot

Ultimately things work out best for those who make the best of the way things work out. – Barbara Johnson

TODAY’S PRAYER
Father, the events of this world unfold according to a plan that I cannot fully understand. But You understand. Help me to trust You, Lord, even when I am grieving. Help me to trust You even when I am confused. Today, in whatever circumstances I find myself, let me trust Your will and accept Your love . . . completely. Amen

Serving

Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. – Colossians 3:23-24

Serving

At the heart of the Civil War was a large portion of free people who concluded that slavery shouldn’t be. Colonel Joshua L. Chamberlain was one of those men. In the movie Gettysburg he says, “This is a different kind of army. If you look back through history, you’ll see men fighting for pay, for women, for some other kind of loot. They fight for land, power, because a king leads them, or just because they like killing. But we are here for something new. This has not happened much in the history of the world. We are an army out to set other men free.”

Throughout history, God has been calling men and women to give of themselves so others can be free. Are you willing to make sacrifices for others?

– Steve Arterburn

For anything worth having one must pay the price; and the price is always work, patience, love, self-sacrifice ‘ no paper currency, no promises to pay, but the gold of real service. – John Burroughs

Defeating Procrastination

When you make a vow to God, don’t delay fulfilling it, because He does not delight in fools. Fulfill what you vow. – Ecclesiastes 5:4

Defeating Procrastination

When turbulent times arrive, it’s easy (and tempting) to avoid those hard-to-do tasks that you would prefer to avoid altogether. But the habit of procrastination takes a double toll: First, important work goes unfinished, and second, valuable energy is wasted in the process of putting off the things that remain undone.

If you find yourself bound by the chains of procrastination, ask yourself what you’re waiting for—or more accurately what you’re afraid of—and why. As you examine the emotional roadblocks that have, heretofore, blocked your path, you may discover that you’re waiting for the “perfect” moment, that instant in time when you feel neither afraid nor anxious. But in truth, perfect moments like these are few and far between.

So stop waiting for the perfect moment and focus, instead, on finding the right moment to do what needs to be done. Then, trust God and get busy. When you do, you’ll discover that you and the Father, working together, can accomplish great things      . . . and that you can accomplish them sooner rather than later.

Once you acquire the habit of doing what needs to be done when it needs to be done, you will avoid untold trouble, worry, and stress. So learn to defeat procrastination by paying less attention to your fears and more attention to your responsibilities. God has created a world that punishes procrastinators and rewards men and women who “do it now.” In other words, life doesn’t procrastinate. Neither should you.

– Steve Arterburn

Not now becomes never. – Martin Luther

Do noble things, do not dream them all day long. – Charles Kingsley

Do the unpleasant work first and enjoy the rest of the day. – Marie T. Freeman

TODAY’S PRAYER
Dear Lord, when I am confronted with things that need to be done, give me the courage and the wisdom to do them now, not later. Amen

Building a New Life

All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting, and training in righteousness, so that the man of God may be thoroughly equipped for every good work. – 2 Timothy 3:16-17

Building a New Life

Your past sometimes gets in the way of your vision for the future, doesn’t it? If you allow yourself to dwell on the areas where you’ve failed or on losses and disappointments that hurt you, you might find it difficult to look forward to the future God has for you.

King David is a man who dreamed of building a magnificent temple. When he commissioned his son Solomon to do the work he said, “Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don’t be afraid or discouraged by the size of the task, for the Lord God, my God is with you.” (1 Chronicles 28:20)  Many years later the apostle Paul said, “We who believe are carefully joined together, becoming a holy temple for the Lord.” (Ephesians 2:21)

Just as David dreamed of building a magnificent temple, you can dare to dream of building a new life. God has the blueprint already drawn up: just follow it by faith. You may be afraid that you will start and fail, but in the words of David, “be strong and courageous, and do the work.” As someone once said: Beginning is half done. In other words, take the first step, it’s the toughest.

What dreams have you been quietly suppressing? Perhaps you have dreamed of becoming a missionary? Maybe you have dreams of adopting. Or dreams of starting a new career. Maybe you’ve been dreaming about building deep friendships or making an impact on your community. Don’t be frightened. When God begins a good work, He is faithful to complete it.

– Steve Arterburn

It’s a shallow life that doesn’t give a person a few scars. – Garrison Keillor

The more we let God take us over, the more truly ourselves we become – because He made us. He invented us. He invented all the different people that you and I were intended to be. – C.S. Lewis

Reframing Our Work

So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. – 1 Corinthians 10:31

Reframing Our Work

Too often we view our work as a curse rather than a divine calling. Renowned author Dorothy Sayers is precisely right in observing that we need ‘a thoroughgoing revolution in our whole attitude to work.’ Namely, that our work should be viewed not as a necessary drudgery to be undergone for the purpose of making money, but as a way of life in which we find personal delight and magnify God’s glory. Sayers believes work, ‘should be thought of as a creative activity undertaken for the love of the work itself; and that. . . [men and women], made in God’s image, should make things, as God makes them, for the sake of doing well a thing that is well worth doing.’

With the right attitude your work can be a source of personal blessing and a vehicle for glorifying God.

– Steve Arterburn

“Train yourself to recognize the hand of God in everything that happens to you.” – Andrew Murray (1828-1917)

New Life Live: December 28, 2015

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Topics: Childhood Abuse, Sexual Abuse, Forgiveness, Narcissists, Adult Children
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Milan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. How can I help my husband who let it slip his sister molested him as a kid?
  2. My wife claims I am borderline and left me; how can I forgive her for destroying our marriage?
  3. Is there help for my husband who gets ticked off when I don’t do what he says?
  4. Is it possible to have a relationship with my 43yo narcissist daughter?
  5. How can I get my wife to read How We Love and work on our marriage?

Suggested Resources:
How We Love
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Forgiving the Unforgivable

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Energizer

And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. – Philippians 4:7

Energizer

Do you remember the Energizer Bunny? The pink, battery-operated bunny beat his drum and traveled about while a voice announced the company’s slogan, “It keeps going and going and going and going…

Can you relate? Many of us feel just like that bunny around the holidays. Church activities, shopping, Christmas cards, baking, cleaning, parties, keeping up with work, and more shopping all have a way of taking their toll. Hard work and service are both good and necessary, but so is stopping once in a while. Even the Energizer Bunny needed to stop for a battery change!

Take some time this coming season to stop and watch the snow fall, and if you happen to be in one of those warm southern states maybe substitute a cool, clear, star-filled night! You’ll find that when you stop, the significance of Christ’s birth will transform your busy heart to a peace-filled heart.

– Steve Arterburn

“Oh! Do not attack me with your watch. A watch is always too fast or too slow.  I cannot be dictated to by a watch.“- Jane Austen (1775-1817)

New Life Live: August 14, 2015

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Topics: Encouragement, Grief, Affairs, Separation, Abortion
Hosts: Steve Arterburn, Dr. Sheri Keffer

Caller Questions:

  1. Comment: I can now express my feelings thanks to all of my grief work and men’s groups.
  2. Comment: God was able to use my pain after my wife’s betrayal.
  3. I left with the kids last week after my husband kicked us out; should I reach out to him?
  4. Interview with Jeff Gilbert from the ministry SaveTheStorks.com reaching out to pregnant women at risk for abortion.

Suggested Resources:
Life Recovery Bible
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Healing Is a Choice
Emotionally Destructive Relationship

This is the Every Man’s Battle Workshop testimony Steve read on the radio today:

I was a recovering alcoholic before I was a sex addict, so I was familiar with the way the addiction process works in the mind. But, I have never had it put to me in a more understandable way than Jason presented it at this workshop. I also believe in any recovery, Christ must be the center of the program and with EMB, He is. The washing away of our sins with the blood of Christ on Saturday night was probably the most moving thing I have ever done. May God continue to bless New Life Ministries. – Jon

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Is Sex Addiction Like Alcoholism?

In this segment of “Ask Me Anything”, Julie wrote in with a questions regarding sexual addiction and alcoholism. She is wondering if these addictions have similar traits. So, Dr. Dave Stoop is answering Julie’s inquiry and explaining how these addictions can manifest themselves in your life, and what she, and all of us, can do to work on them! Click here to watch the video.

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Being A Lifer

You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised. Hebrews 10:36

Being A Lifer

The Christian life is a journey where we get to exercise our faith and our obedience to God’s principles for living. There will be times when you grow  weary, times when you want to throw in the towel. You’ll experience pain, fear, and every imaginable emotion. You’ll win some battles but lose others.

You may get discouraged at times when you don’t see the progress you’d like despite your diligence. But if you persevere through it all, you’ll honor God and find a life worth living.

The apostle Paul’s words to the young disciple, Timothy, tell us a thing or two about perseverance. “Endure suffering along with me,” said Paul, “as a good soldier of Christ Jesus. And as Christ’s soldier, do not let yourself become tied up in the affairs of this life, for then you cannot satisfy the one who has enlisted you in his army. Follow the Lord’s rules for doing his work, just as an athlete either follows the rules or is disqualified and wins no prize. Hardworking farmers are the first to enjoy the fruit of their labor.” (2 Timothy 2:3-6)

Have you ever thought of yourself as a soldier? or as a trained and skilled athlete? Soldier’s and athletes are disciplined; no cheating and no cutting corners. And like farmers, you work, then wait patiently to reap the benefits of your labor.

– Steve Arterburn

It takes 20 years to make an overnight success.” – Eddie Cantor (1892–1964)