Reality Can Hurt

But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. – 1 John 1:7-8

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Discomfort, pain, conflict, spiritual warfare-these are aspects of reality in a fallen world. Healthy faith recognizes them as biblical realities. Healthy faith has you look to Christ for help when you’re in the midst of them.

Having a healthy faith certainly doesn’t mean you’ll always like reality, or that you should become complacent or indifferent to the darker side of life. But it does mean you’ll recognize the way things are. You’ll be able to admit you’ve failed, that you’re a sinner, and you’re stumbling along the way. But you can choose to walk in the light, and enjoy the companionship of family, friends and Jesus Christ himself.

– Steve Arterburn

Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm. – Winston Churchill

TODAY’S PRAYER
Father, help me face my realities with faith and hope with the understanding that while today might not be all I hoped it would be, tomorrow and all my tomorrows are in Your hands. Thank you, Lord for your faithfulness! Amen.

Walking Our Talk

So don’t get tired of doing what is good. Don’t get discouraged and give up, for we will reap a harvest of blessing at the appropriate time. – Galatians 6:9

Walking Our Talk
If you’re like most people, you seek the admiration of your neighbors, your coworkers, and your family members. But the eagerness to please others should never overshadow your eagerness to please God. And your desire to impress others should never cause you to compromise your beliefs or to defy your conscience. In short, you must be a “doer of the word” by putting God first. In other words, are you walking your talk of love, grace, peace, mercy and joy?

The words of Matthew 6:33 offer clear instructions for managing your day and your life: But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you” (HCSB).

Each new day presents countless opportunities to put God in first place . . . or not. When you honor Him by living according to His commandments, you earn the abundance and peace that He promises. But, if you ignore God’s teachings, you’ll pay a price, perhaps a very great price indeed.

Would you like a time-tested formula for successful living? Here it is: Don’t just listen to God’s Word, live by it. Does this sound too simple? Perhaps it is simple, but it is also the only way to reap the marvelous riches that God has in store for you.

Ask yourself if your behavior has been radically changed by your unfolding relationship with God. If the answer to this question is unclear to you—or if the honest answer is a resounding no—think of a single step you can take, a positive change in your life, that will bring you closer to your Creator.

– Steve Arterburn

Although God causes all things to work together for good for His children, He still holds us accountable for our behavior. – Kay Arthur   

Either God’s Word keeps you from sin, or sin keeps you from God’s Word. – Corrie ten Boom

There may be no trumpet sound or loud applause when we make a right decision, just a calm sense of resolution and peace. – Gloria Gaither

The temptation of the age is to look good without being good. – Brennan Manning

If we have the true love of God in our hearts, we will show it in our lives. We will not have to go up and down the earth proclaiming it. We will show it in everything we say or do. – D. L. Moody

Transparency

Let us examine our ways and test them, and let us return to the Lord. Lamentations 3:40

Transparency

I took a course in seminary and the professor told us that we could ask him anything we wanted, that his life was an open book. He would answer any question about anything. I didn’t believe him, but as the semester went on, I witnessed transparency in this man unlike anything I’d ever witnessed before.

My upbringing was such that “transparency” wasn’t even in our dictionary. My parents never came out and said it, but what was modeled was that it was o.k. to fudge on the truth if it meant letting others know that everything was o.k. in the Arterburn household.

It can be difficult to be real and open and honest, but if I want to continue growing and learning and being open to the awesome things God is doing, I have to at all costs keep myself accountable and let others know exactly where I am, what I’m feeling, what I’m concerned about; in short, just where I am emotionally. When I don’t do that, that’s where the journey into isolation begins for me, and I head off into an unhealthy emotional state.

I want to be honest and exhibit integrity at all times. I want to be someone that others can trust and turn to knowing there will be no judgment. And I want others to come to me in the same way.

What keeps us from this transparency in life? I know one thing that hinders transparency is pride. Satan has used this since Adam and Eve to put a wedge between man and God. That’s why we have to put on the whole armor of God. Our battles are spiritual. Don’t let pride get in the way of God’s call for you to live a transparent life.

Eyes so transparent that through them the soul is seen. Theophile Gautier

I show my scars so that others know they can heal. – Rhachelle Nicol

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Compassion

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. – Colossians 3:12

Compassion

Most of us desire to be compassionate people, don’t we? But do we know what compassion really is? Henri Nouwen once wrote:

Compassion is hard because it requires the inner disposition to go with others to the place where they are weak, vulnerable, lonely, and broken. But this is not our spontaneous response to suffering. What we desire most is to do away with suffering by fleeing from it or finding a quick fix for it. As busy, active, relevant. . . [people] we want to earn our bread by making a real contribution. This means first and foremost doing something to show that our presence makes a difference. And so we ignore our greatest gift, which is our ability to enter into solidarity with those who suffer.

Showing compassion goes against our daily grind and our drive to achieve. It’s selfless, time consuming, and often not pleasant. But it’s one of those double blessing things, you’ll bless another with your act of compassion, and you’ll be blessed in the process.

– Steve Arterburn

“The purpose of human life is to serve, and to show compassion and the will to help others.” – Albert Schweitzer (1875-1965)

New Life Live: December 19, 2014

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Topics: MarriageAlcoholicsDepressionForgivenessChurch Life 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Dave Stoop with Larry Sonnenburg

Caller Questions:

  1. My wife says the husband is responsible for any bad marriage; is that true? 
  2. My hit and run accident from 10yrs ago is destroying me; is it too late to make it right? 
  3. Should a pastor use the pulpit to criticize individuals? 

Suggested Resources:
Forgiving Our Parents, Forgiving Ourselves
Life Recovery Bible
More Jesus, Less Religion

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New Life Live: December 15, 2014

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Topics: Borderline Personality DisorderCommunicationSeparationAdult Children 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. After taking medication, my borderline wife left me for another man; is there any hope of her returning to normal? 
  2. How can I be less defensive and demeaning in the way I communicate? 
  3. Is it adultery if my husband wants to start dating after 2yrs of separation? 
  4. My alcoholic daughter has already had an affair since she got married 2yrs ago; how can I help them reconcile? 

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Book of Life Recovery
Life Recovery Bible

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New Life Live: December 8, 2014

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Topics: GriefAddictionsSubstance AbuseSexual IntegrityChildhood Issues 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill HubbardMilan Yerkovich

Caller Questions:

  1. Am I grieving the loss of a parent relationship, or is it self pity? 
  2. I have two heroin addict kids; how do I prevent burnout? 
  3. I just attended Every Man’s Battle, and it is transformational! 
  4. Why do I still have strong feelings for my first love in high school? 

Suggested Resources:
NIV Spiritual Renewal Study Bible
Healing Is a Choice

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New Life Live: December 4, 2014

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Topics: ParentingParent IssuesBoundariesDatingAngerPornographySexual Integrity 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Jill Hubbard and Guest Host Carey Casey, CEO of National Center for Fathering

Caller Questions:

  1. I have a grown son with ADD and am confused about medications. 
  2. How can I have a relationship with my dad when my stepmother controls everything? 
  3. I have been engaged for 3yrs; how long is too long to be engaged? 
  4. How can I be an encouragement to my 33yo son who had a child out of wedlock? 
  5. Should I leave my angry husband who is involved with pornography, prostitutes and affairs? 

Suggested Resources:
Forgiving our Fathers and Mothers
Healing Is a Choice
21-Day Dad’s Challenge by Carey Casey (not available through New Life)

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New Life Live: December 1, 2014

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Topics: Sexual AbuseGrandparentingGriefParenting 
Hosts: Steve ArterburnDr. Henry CloudDr. Jill Hubbard

Caller Questions:

  1. New Life Live and tv.newlife.com have been extremely helpful to my life! 
  2. How can I cope with the pain of being forbidden to see my 17yo granddaughter? 
  3. My 17yo son lives with his divorced dad and won’t talk to me; what can I do now that I have a new husband? 

Suggested Resources:
Life Recovery Bible
NIV Spiritual Renewal Study Bible
Changes That Heal

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