New Life Live: August 27, 2015

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Topics: Alcoholics, Pleasers, Divorce, Christian Walk, Homosexuals
Hosts: Dr. Sheri Keffer, Milan Yerkovich with Larry Sonnenburg

Caller Questions:

  1. My alcoholism is tearing me apart and I am losing my family; what can I do?
  2. Why do I get hurt when I don’t get praise for doing things for others?
  3. My husband says we fight too much and wants a divorce; my faith is shaken.
  4. How should I handle my homosexual brother who ignores me since I got saved?

Suggested Resources:
Healing Is a Choice
How We Love
7 Minute Marriage Solution
Book of Life Recovery

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Comments

  1. I learned allot from today’s show. What stood out for me is that those who struggle with addition need to find others that have struggled and have had success in remaining sober.

    I see that those who need praise may have lacked something in their lives but identifying what they were missing such as connection is helpful to understand so that we don’t allow this to control our emotions.

    I am one who stays quiet when I don’t agree on something in my relationship. I believe the reason I remain quiet is so that I take time to analyze the situation to insure that there is actually an issue that needs to be addressed. I then pick and choose my battles because in a relationship there could be several things you have to be working on if something is bothering me more I hope we can work through that before I add to it and make it look like I am nit picking. At this point in time I have learned through your program that sometimes their problem is not mine and I disassociate from it until I can address it at a better point in time. I don’t want to enable bad behavior for a long period of time but if it can wait I can write down the incident as an example to bring up latter.

    When asked as a believer how I feel about homosexuality and the lifestyle I do speak state that I have understood how God sees it. I have experienced intolerance from belivers and non belivers alike on my desire to stand by Gods word I do explain that I love the person and not the sin. I will not treat anyone disrespectfully an I won’t make them think like I do we simply can say we belive differently in this matter as well as many other matters. I like that diversity is something we all need to demonstrate and accept.

  2. I really related to the caller whose husband wants a divorce. My husband and I were in youth ministry for about 15 years, both graduates of local Bible colleges and my faith is shaken as well. My counselor says that I have done due diligence in my effort to restore the marriage. We have been separated for 2 years, have 2 boys and I am frustrated. My husband says that I have done all that I can, he is “just not husband material”. We don’t fight and co-parent well but I am at a loss. I know he has unresolved childhood issues, hates and disrespects his mom and lives with her. I have asked him to go to the marriage event and declined. I would like to know (in the ask me anything) where do women like me go from here? I am at peace because of the counsel I have received but I am frustrated for my boys who are watching this “sin of sloth”. He is lazy and does not want to put forth effort in anything but in things that entertain him.

    • Mimi I feel for you. Why does he say he is not husband material? This is the question I would have to understand. Is it that he is not mature enough, or is it that he doesn’t need anyone, but needs to grow on his own? I have been single since 1995 and although I’ve had a couple short-lived relationships, I realized that ‘the one’ is not here yet. Whether or not I ever get married again, I found peace in knowing God and I’ve done well on my own. I don’t feel I have the time to devote to a relationship, while I work on myself. It takes time to know oneself without the distraction and influence of a partner. I have high expectations, and I would rather remain single than settle. Do you think perhaps your faith is shaken in ‘how you thought it should be’ rather than letting God guide you daily as you discover who you can be with him? Once you realize your true intentions you can find more peace in the changes you need to make in order to grow with the guidance of God.

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